After a distressing or a traumatic event, it is normal for people of all ages to experience strong or mixed emotions.
These are normal reactions to an abnormal event.
The recent fire at Deni High School has been distressing for many students parents, carers, teachers and the wider community.
When something so unexpected and frightening happens, it’s normal for children and teens to feel unsettled, confused, scared, angry, or sad.
Some may withdraw, others may become more emotional or on edge, and some may carry on as though nothing has happened. All these responses are valid.
For our young people, school is more than a learning environment — it’s a place of friendship, routine, identity and safety.
Parents and carers play an important role in supporting young people through uncertain times like this.
Acknowledging their feelings, whatever they are, helps them feel understood.
Simple reassurance such as “it makes sense you feel that way” or “we’re going to get through this together” can go a long way.
Keeping routines steady at home, including regular meals, sleep and family rhythms, helps rebuild a sense of safety when school routines might be disrupted.
Young people also benefit from gentle limits around distressing media and rumours.
Opening the door for conversation, without forcing it, can help - whether that’s during a walk, in the car or at bedtime.
Activities like art, music, sport, time with friends and being outdoors can support healthy coping.
Staff and teachers are also carrying a significant emotional load.
They not only care for their students, but many also hold their own memories and connections to the school. Many might have lost a lifetime of resources.
Offering kindness, patience and ongoing support to staff during this time is important, as they come to terms with challenges, changes and their own losses.
Many community members and people with past connections to the school may also feel affected.
Feelings of sadness, loss , disbelief and numbness are normal.
Staying in touch with others, talking with friends, sharing memories if it feels comforting, and taking breaks from social media can be helpful.
Taking care of your general wellbeing, keeping routines and staying active all contribute to emotional recovery.
Just a reminder: During events like this, some people in the community may also experience frustration or outrage as they try to make sense of what has happened.
These feelings are understandable. Being mindful of the language we use - especially on social media, in public discussions and in the presence of young people - helps prevent misinformation and reduces distress for others.
It's okay to ask for help
For most people, the intensity of emotions will settle within about two to three weeks, however others might feel the need to talk to a professional about their experience.
You can start with a chat with your GP, or by calling one of the many national helplines available - even it you are not in crisis, but just needing to talk a few things through.
For a list of the 24/7 helplines, go to www.denimentalhealth.org.au/helplines.
For advice on where to go for local help, go to www.denimentalhealth.org.au/local.
Resources which may be heldful include:
• https://kidshelpline.com.au/teens/issues/coping-strategies
• https://kidshelpline.com.au/parents/issues/how-parentline-can-help-you
• https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/support-someone/how-to-talk-to-someone-about-their-mental-health
